Relationship

If you are a girl, can you have a close "boy" friend? this question has been posted to me since high school, and my answer always is YES.

A couple knew each other for more than 5 years, broke off once and get back to each other after one year cooling down period. If I'm either one party, I'm sure want to make this relationship better since we got back together eventually. During the years both of them together, actually the girl met another man in her office. This man in the office is much other mature than her boy friend, she enjoy his company and she like to share with him all her stuff except "boy friend", so this man did not know about the relationship after 4 years together as her closed friend.

One day, few of us get together without her and we start discussing about her because one of the girl just found out that she has already attached with the man for a year. All of them start asking her question, and try to get her admit and disclose her relationship but nothing was disclosed after few weeks attempts. Unfortunately, "paper can't cover fire" one of the friend manage to make her admit the relationship, but the wiered thing is she still didnt admit in front of her close friend "the man". And we try to ask her whether she likes "the man" but she deny and she said only treated him as good friend. If only good friend...why didnt tell him she already going out with someone....why didnt tell the boy friend that she is going out dinner with him...why didnt invite the boy friend to come along for certain outing...why care so much about "the man" ...for example helping him looking for job...celebrate his b'day with him twice....asking him for opinion in all her decision making.....

Poor little boy friend who get to know all the stuff about "the man" and his girl friend, and he knew that if he raise it to the girl friend sure she will not like it and she will ask to end the relationship again. So he just keep all the unhappiness in his heart, and he told himself that as long as his love is sincere and unchange the girl will be with him eventually. And he always remind himself that "they are only good friend".

As a third party, I believe that the girl is trying to be "good friend" with "the man" but she doesnt realize that she is overnice to him until it has given "the man" a wrong impression. The lucky thing is..."the man" always having a positive mindset that the girl only treated him as uncle and he just want to be happy and dont bother to get into a complicated relationship. And because of that it has saved "the boy friend". However, will the girl be happy if she married her boy friend? does the girl know what she want in her life? does the girl know what type of life she is looking for? will the man regret when he is in his 60's?